Thursday, December 8, 2011

$50 to the 50th Member

$50 Gift Card Give-Away!

The 50th person to JoinUS at The Lipstick Journal will win a $50.00 gift card to the store of their choosing!!  Got a bill to pay, want a new pair of shoes from a certain store, need gas???  Unlike other promotions that give out the gift that THEY want you to have, we want to give you the gift that YOU want!!!

So.... Join us today and post a comment on any one of the articles to be eligible to win!!   Leave suggestions here on how we can make this site better for you (pssst...This comment can count, also)!!  Check back often for more give-aways!  Empowering women every where!

I can't wait to hear from you.

Ms. Me

Monday, December 5, 2011

Whether You Think You Can or Think You Can't, Either Way, You're Right

In relationships today, be they personal, professional or romantic, confidence can do 50% of your work for you.  Self confidence is the key to success.   It has often been said that 70% of what you communicate is non-verbal.  So what are you saying about yourself before you even utter a word?  
Picture yourself walking into your boss’s office… Oh, you are the boss? Okay well, picture yourself walking up to a complete stranger that you are attracted to.  How do you look? What message do you communicate the moment you walk into the room? What are your eyes, hands and shoulders saying?
What information can people gather about you before you ever say a word? Never thought about it? You should!  
Many people are born with self confidence, but it most certainly can be learned.  Many of my friends today would out right laugh in my face if I told them that I was once a very shy, timid, mouse of a girl.  My self-confidence was so low that even when I knew I did a great job on something, I second guessed myself into being a total wreck.  I was too shy to speak

Thursday, November 10, 2011

First Lady: 100,000 More Jobs Committed to Vets, Spouses

By Lisa Daniel
American Forces Press Service

WASHINGTON, Nov. 10, 2011 – First Lady Michelle Obama today announced a private sector commitment to hire 100,000 veterans and military spouses by 2014, bringing to at least 125,000 the total commitment in response to President Barack Obama’s recent hiring challenge.
The International Franchise Association, which represents 1,100 franchises, has committed to hiring 80,000 veterans and military spouses by 2014 – with 5,000 jobs reserved for wounded warriors, Mrs. Obama said during a keynote address at the U.S. Chamber of Commerce’s Business Steps Up: Hiring our Heroes event here.  Also, the first lady said the Military Spouse Employment Partnership has committed to employing 20,000 military spouses by 2014. Dr. Jill Biden, wife of Vice President Joe Biden, helped launch the partnership at the Chamber of Commerce last summer. The partnership includes nearly 100
 employers, including Microsoft, Home Depot and Citi,

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Style File #1: Accessories

Style File #1: Accessories
Ever picked out a perfect outfit, tried it on, fits great.  Get it home, adore it.  A few days later, outfit on, make up done, ready to strut your stuff because you know you are bad… Look in the mirror… What the What?  Outfit just looks… #FaceFrownedUp… PLAIN.
Let me help.  It is easy to ruin a great outfit by choosing not so great or NO accessories.  On the flip, it’s just as easy to make a homely outfit great with the right finishing touches.  This is true for ensembles that you wear to work, on the weekend, or for a night out on the town.  PSA: this also holds true for men.   A coworker of mine, who dresses really nice I may add, was admiring another co-workers necklace and commented, “You all accessorize very well.  I need to learn to use accessories.”  Upon hearing this, I shared my love of accessories and my thoughts on how if done right, they make you tastefully standout-ish.  She interjected, “Yeah, but it is so high

Wednesday, November 2, 2011


Why is it so hard for women to be viewed equally as adept as men in business?  I know my job and do it well, so why am I getting paid less???  Men have known it all along, but few women have had the mentorship to teach us that to be successful and get what you want from your career, you must learn to be assertive and confident.  Women have been socialized to believe that passivity keeps you out of trouble.  Who wants to be the problem child, right?  And those who refuse to be the office doormat, take an extreme measure of being aggressive, you know the angry one who will not be walked over and is not afraid to scream her opisition to ANY issue from the highest desktop!  Both recourses have extreme backlash that women should seek to avoid.  Researchers at Essex University have found that women who can navigate the personality pitfalls in the work place make 5% more than those passive

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Relationship With Self...

Relationship with Self

“If you aren't good at loving you, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't giving to yourself.”–Barbara De Angelis

I am a self professed serial dater stuck in the honeymoon phase of romantic relationships. The first month of a relationship is the best. The excitement of a phone call,  a first kiss or the anticipation of it becoming sexual makes dating or even marriage worth the effort. Lately I have been considering

Family Thyme


With my high paced career, the man of the house commuting back and forth between Philly and Richmond, teenager's social and work schedules, basketball practices, and b-ball games, it is very hard to get in family time.  Life happens, but nothing should get in the way of a family bonding together.  To remedy the shortfall in my household, I had to look for creative ways to spend time with my kids and my lovely other half.  Everyone likes to eat, so cooking Sunday dinner presents the perfect time for us to get together and create magic in the kitchen.  Ladies, its also a great way to turn up the heat between you and a significant other.  Cook a great meal together, share some wine, put on some good slow jams and have a fabulous candle lit dinner.  Try it Al Fresco for added romance.  Okay my imagination is getting the best of me... Back to the family time.

Saturday, October 29, 2011

Get Your Denim On!

With this being the first post on fashion, I figured why not kick it off with a DENIM Report, and work our way up! DENIM is one of the many styles from the 70’s that has made a comeback this season! What makes DENIM so fabulous? It can be worn with virtually anything and in any setting… while making various signature or fashion statements. Most importantly, it doesn’t take much to dress it up or down. You can be equally fabulous in a jean dress and stillettos or beach ‘flops and a tank! Accessories with denim?…whew a whole 'nother topic!! But I am definitely going to give you some suggestions on how to turn the heat up on the 2011 Trends of rocking pure DENIM and being sexy with it too!

So who says you can’t be creative in your jean treasures?? DENIM no longer implies boring old blue jeans. Fashionistas everywhere have gotten much more creative. I’ve hopped on the DENIM bandwagon myself, and put together my Fall 2011 DENIM Wishlist.
What to wear with a DENIM dress? Well, you don’t need much. You can throw on some boots or sandals, and maybe a sweater. For fall, try it with a cropped leather jacket and tights. And as always…a mid-waist belt would also add a touch of chic to accentuate your curves!
What to wear with a DENIM jacket? A maxi dress, sun dress, kakis, colored DENIM pants or shorts. Of course, wedged heels, or cowboy boots would also be sexy.
Finally!!! My absolute FAV for Fall 2011!! Who would’ve ever imagined that colored DENIM would come back around so soon?? Not to mention how FABULOUS it looks with just about any and everything!! So now the million dollar question is…What to wear with colored DENIM? This is easy…be creative. This Fall, it’s all about COLOR COLOR and more BRIGHT COLORS. My plan has been to collect all colors, and so far, I’ve acquired three (red, teal, and cobalt blue). Let’s take red for example, you can easily rock a cute black (draped) top with it, along with a pair of booties, wedges, a bold necklace, and instead of a traditional handbag, grab an embellished minaudiere to really dress up your colored jeans. You can also try tucking your colored DENIM into your black boots—it totally elongates the leg!
So thats my list!!! Let me know what your favorite DENIM styles are for Fall and Winter!!!

Madame Chic

Friday, October 28, 2011

IBM Hires First Female CEO

On October 26, 2011, IBM announced that Virginia "Ginni" Rommetty would be taking over the role of CEO in January 2012 when the current CEO, Samuel J. Palmisano, retires.  This is a historical moment.  The two largest technology companies will be both headed by powerful women.  In September, amongst drama and mayhem, HP ousted CEO Leo Apotheker and replaced him with Ms. Meg Whitman. The tides are changing in business and industry for women!!  I am really glad that we now have two more women who have broken the glass ceiling on career advancement.  Way to go HP and IBM!  Also, to Ms. Rommetty and Ms. Whitman, my hats off to you!  That's what I call leading from the front!!!

Ms. Me

Women's Misguided Motivation to Increase Fitness

Today I read an article in Whole Living that highlights womens underlying motivations to exercise.  The article titled, "The Dirty Little Secret about Feel Good Work-Outs," discusses a study conducted by motivational psychologist, Michelle Segar, PH.D., of 266 full-time working women.  The study concludes that more women felt motivated to work out for immediate reasons like quick weight loss, stress reduction, social image, or quality of daily life.  When presented with the choice of excercising for healthy aging, women were less likely to fit exercise into their hectic daily schedules.  This study sheds a lot of light on why it is so difficult for women

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Go Get It Girl!

Have you ever wondered how she does it? You know, the one other women (not you, right) refer to as that one, the girl who always has the inside scoop on getting the most posh positions at work, no man troubles, the exciting lifestyle, and always looks great while she is at it...  Do you ever wonder how she gets so lucky?  Well let me tell you, luck has nothing to do with it.  It's about strategy.  Preparing for any moment and being ready when it comes!  No-Excuses!  You want it; you better learn to be a Go-Getter-Girl and go get it!!!  ...And I am going to show you exactly how to do it by leading from the front!!

One of my favorite books out right now is by Atlanta author, Debra Shigley.  Her book is where I get the term Go Getter Girl, GGG for short.  Debra shared her secrets on career success in her book, "Go-Getter Girls Guide: Get What You Want in Work and Life." I believe that women, up-and-coming and established, could use some friendly advice on self-promotion. So go get her book (Debra you owe me for this plug!!)  Ms. Shigley believes that there is a Go-Getter Girl in all of us; we just need to learn to tap into that power.

So, what is a Go-Getter Girl, GGG for short? She is the one that many refer to as that girl, or remove girl and insert expletive, lol. She is smart, resourceful, savvy, fashion forward, and always on top or her game.  We all know her, she may be your friend, co-worker, or someone that you don't know, but you should definitely get to know.  That is why this blog is so important!!  It is a place where we as Go-Getter Girls can gather swap stories, and drop advice and pearls of wisdom on each other in an environment where low self esteem and feelings of inadequacy WILL NOT be tolerated.

In the words of Beyonce Knowles, a true GGG, 'Let's Go Gettem'!  

TLJ's top 5 tips on being a GGG

1. GGG's lead from the front.  She doesn't worry about what others are doing unless they can be positive motivators for her success.  Not to say that she is selfish, but rather in tune with what she needs to succeed and if you can't get with that, you will get left behind.
2. GGG's have people.  You absolutely must expand your circle and learn how to schmooze a lot.  Remember the strategy is success!  The most valuable education is self-education, according to Debra Shigley.  I agree.  I must add that having a mentor and positive role models is just as valuable.  If you don't have one, hell, I'll volunteer to be yours!!!
3. GGG's build wardrobes.  Learn how to dress for success.  My motto has always been, in business, don't dress for your current position, dress for the next position up!  If you aspire to be an executive, then dress like you are already one.  This builds your confidence, but also makes you stand out!!  Be fabulous when being fabulous counts.
4. GGG's know how to get what they want.  Learn the value of negotiation.  It doesn't matter if you are buying knick-knacks from the local five & dime, negotiate the terms of what you want.  The art of negotiation is to always look for a win-win for you and the other party.  That will significantly boost your success rate in getting what you want out of the deal without making the other party feel cheated.
5. GGG's are fit and fabulous.  Notice I said fit, not skinny, not athletic, but fit!!  That means you have to know how to do what is right and healthy for you!! Now I will say that a part of being fit requires some form of mind, body and soul exercising.  All three of these together, keep your stress levels low and your self-image high!!  If you feel good about YOU, others will too.  Don't be afraid to let your light shine!!

            Okay, you now have your basic starter kit for getting what you want out of life, but now I want to hear from you.  What do you think a GGG is and what tip can you give an up and coming Go Getter?  Also, shout out someone who you believe is a GGG and share this post and your shout out with them!

Ms. Me

Sunday, October 23, 2011

Cooking With Love

I love good food!!!!  One of my favorite pass times is to seek out new diners, dives, local joints, pubs and any where that serves good food and ale (okay I am more of a Martini/Cosmo girl but it sounds good anyway)....  So with regret, I must say, my new city, Richmond, VA is a little short on the GOOD EATS!!!  Me and the love of my life have traveled up and down the cobbled, colonial streets in search of trendy, romantic, or fun spots to get our bellies full and have been greeted with poor customer service, less than lacking ambiance, and worst of all bland, tasteless food!!!

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Introducing ... The Lipstick Journal

Hello out there my fellow Lipstick Wearers,

The Lipstick Journal is an insightful place for women to gather and share empowering tips on being a Go-Getter Girl. Here, we discuss issues important to women who are dedicated to self empowerment at work and at home. Such topics as carrying yourself professionally in the work place, how to get ahead in your career and home life, finances, fashion tips, healthy living tips, and much much more will be discussed. This is going to be fun and I cannot wait to hear from you!!! Be sure to leave a comment below to leave feedback or suggest posting ideas that are important to you!!!

Sincerely Yours,

Ms. Me